"You don't have to see it to feel it"
Dave calls his experience with vision loss a slow torture. In the face of this, however, he has found a sense of inspiration in explorers, history, and an activity you wouldn't typically connect with vision loss, sightseeing.
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You don’t have to see it to feel it
Presented by Douglas Walker
David: RP is like a slow torture, you know. Because six months from now your vision plateaus, and you get comfortable with it, and one day you're watching TV, the next day you can't. And so it's kind of like a slow torture.
Douglas: Hello, and welcome to Hadley’s Insights and Sound Bites podcast, where people facing vision loss share insights about what has helped them cope and adjust.
David: My name is Dave Lehman, and I'm from Massachusetts.
Well, I'm 67 years old. I have retinitis pigmentosa, or RP. I'm married for 43 years. My wife and I have been together for 51 years, actually, we were childhood sweethearts.
With RP, you're slowly losing sight. RP is a slow torture, you know. If I had to find a word for it, it's a slow torture, because six months from now your vision plateaus, and you get comfortable with it, and one day you're able to drive, the next day can't. One day you're watching TV, the next day you can't. And so, it's kind of like a slow torture. And then, at the end of all that, the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow is, you get to go blind. And then from there, you either have to really challenge yourself or go down that rabbit hole.
Then it comes push to shove, you've got to pick up the cane, or get a dog, or things like that, and now, there's no more hiding it. You're out there for everybody to see, and it's a hard pill to swallow, but sooner or later, it's what you've got to do.
Things that get me going, or inspire me, it might sound funny, but I love sightseeing. I love history, and I love people or things that inspire me. I listen to books about explorers.
I'll give you an example, one time I was reading about the Civil War and everything like that, and I read this great story about Gettysburg, and it was just driving me crazy out in Pennsylvania, and I said to my wife, "We've just got to go. We just got to go.” And you know, I didn't know how much I was going to like it or anything like that, because visually, I wasn't going to see anything.
So, I get out there and stuff, and we're seeing all the sites and everything, and I actually got to stand in Lincoln's footsteps, where he gave the Gettysburg Address, and I mean, it totally gave me goosebumps. The more I think about it, it's like, "Wow, that's one of those wow moments," and you really didn't have to see it to feel it.
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Episode 58
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Episode 57
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Episode 56
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Episode 54
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Episode 53
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Episode 52
When Jeffry lost his sight, he felt a loss of control, a loss of dignity. Then, he began his long road to empowerment, one small goal at a time.
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Episode 51
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Episode 50
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Episode 49
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Episode 48
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Episode 47
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Episode 46
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